It’s OK. Those two words probably mean very little to you, but to me they were very empowering. I was the type of person who put everyone first, did everything for everyone else, family, friends, staff, clients. It was my philosophy that you put everyone first, you put yourself last, by putting yourself first you were selfish and not a very nice person.
By working with my Life Coach I could acknowledge that this was not really a good philosophy, it was probably one of the reasons I was so sad and so down. I knew I had to work on this, and one of the ways we came up with this was for me to say – I can do this and its OK to do it.
Every time I was faced with a difficult situation, or a situation that made me feel like I was letting someone down I had to tell myself that I can do this and its OK to do this. I remember driving home from a meeting where I was told by a client about how something that one of my staff members did had upset them greatly. Having to step up and be the Boss was hard for me when it involved having to reprimand someone. So all the way back to the office from that meeting I kept repeating to myself – I can do this, its OK to do this.
And in the end it was, I spoke to my staff member, she was extremely sorry that the incident had happened and wasn’t really aware how she had upset the client. The client received an apology and they were happy and the staff member became more aware of her actions.
If I hadn’t of kept repeating to myself those words – I can do this and its OK to do this – then things probably would have ended up a lot worse and I wouldn’t have become a stronger person.
There are many incidents where its OK to do or not do things, like not wanting to go to lunch with that person or to reprimand that staff member for them stuffing up so bad that you lost a client or to ask a client for payment. Whenever something difficult comes up tell yourself I can do this, its OK to do this. You will be quite pleasantly surprised at how your life changes, just a little bit, by these words 🙂
Question: Have you ever told yourself that ‘its OK’. Where do you use this? Or where can you use this?
